Dime Game

Should you ask? Should you say no? And how hard should you push? The Dime Game is a skill from Dialectical Behavior Therapy that turns that fog into a clear answer. You weigh ten factors about your situation, and the app maps your answers onto a 1-10 scale of intensity — from "don't ask, don't hint" all the way to "ask firmly and don't take no for an answer." HOW IT WORKS 1. Choose whether you're asking for something or saying no. 2. Answer ten yes-or-no questions about your situation. 3. Get a recommended intensity, plus a summary of which factors were in your favor. It takes about a minute. THE TEN FACTORS Capability · Priorities · Self-respect · Rights · Authority · Relationship · Long-term goals · Give and take · Homework · Timing Each factor is phrased differently depending on whether you're making a request or turning one down — the same way the skill is taught in DBT skills groups. WHY IT HELPS Most of us miss in one of two directions: we cave when we should hold firm, or we push hard when letting it go would have cost us less. The Dime Game slows the decision down just enough to see it clearly, and gives you language for what you decided and why. BUILT TO STAY OUT OF YOUR WAY • No account, no sign-up • Works completely offline • Collects nothing — your answers never leave your phone, and aren't even saved once you close the app • No ads, no subscriptions, no tracking ABOUT THE SKILL Based on Marsha M. Linehan, DBT Skills Training Handouts and Worksheets, Second Edition — Interpersonal Effectiveness Handout 8. This app is an independent study aid and is not affiliated with, sponsored by, or endorsed by Dr. Linehan or Guilford Press. WITH THANKS To the staff at the UPMC Jameson Partial Hospitalization Program, who teach these skills with patience and care. IMPORTANT Dime Game is a self-help aid for practicing a DBT skill. It is not therapy, not a medical device, and not a substitute for professional care. It does not diagnose or treat any condition. If you are in crisis, contact a mental health professional or your local crisis line — in the US, call or text 988.